Blind spots

Blind spots are points outside our field of vision which, if not taken seriously, can lead to a motor accident.

Just as our vision suffers blind spots, so too does our personality.

Our psychological blind spots can be defined as areas in our life that we are oblivious to. They are usually the negative traits and habits that we are unaware of, but everyone else sees.

We like to think of ourselves within a certain frame of reference, composed of many positive and valuable character traits. Unfortunately we seldom live up the standards that we tell others we subscribe to.

We would like to be someone admired by all, but often our insecurity that others have not noticed our ‘greatness’ demands that we reinforce it to them. We therefore subtly brag of our non-existent noble character.

“As you know I never judge others...”

“I am not one to mince my words...”

“I always speak my mind...”

“I always see the best in others...”

(Ironically these statements are usually followed by the opposite action, one of judging or avoiding confrontation.)

Our inability to deal with our flaws forces us to persist in unhelpful and counter-productive behaviour. Blind spots are not bad, but they need to be regularly checked or danger will likely follow.

Those who can ­do. Those who can’t ­tell others that they do.