The world of addictions is a scary one to witness. The addict is a con-artist extraordinaire. He has to be as his survival depends on it. It isn't that he wants to lie, it's that he cannot not lie. The truth is too scary and too painful. Admitting his addiction is half the problem.
But every story of addiction has another story of co-dependency- " a helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement."
The codependent prolongs the addictive cycle; he makes excuses for the addict, bails out the addict and defends the addict. The codependent ensures that the addict need never take responsibility for his actions.
They show kindness when harshness is needed, they open their arms when their arms needed to be folded.
Their reluctance to be perceived as the 'bad guy' dupes them into becoming the bad guy.
Addicts are not the only ones who need to be in therapy...they are just the obvious ones.
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